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STOP
COMPARING
YOUR
SITUATION
TO
EVERYONE
ELSE'S
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This part of being an attorney is probably the
hardest in the world. This part consists of saying these words, “Your
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Why are these words so hard to say?? The reason is
everyone in their mind has evaluated their situation, their case or
their circumstances and has compared it to someone they presume is
similarly situated. Once they draw the comparison, they look at the
other person’s favorable outcome. Next, they look at their current
situation. Finally, after evaluating all of the facts, looking at the
outcome and looking at their situation, they come to a conclusion that
everyone should clearly understand. Why is my situation NOT like theirs
when every thing is the same??? .:read more:.
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Brilliant deduction, isn’t it?
With that logic, it’s a wonder
more people aren’t attorneys.
Wait, am I being a smart aleck??
Who?? ME??? Of course, I am.
Why?? In that brilliant
deduction, there is one small
piece that is not considered.
What is it, you might ask?? I’ll
tell you. It’s the fact that
everyone’s circumstances are NOT
the same as someone else’s!!
Think about it like this.
Suppose you buy the same car,
with the same amount of mileage,
from the same car lot as your
friend…the cars are the same.
Same paint job, same
accessories, same make and
model. However, as soon as you
buy the car, the car starts to
have problems. You don’t know
what the problem is but you
can’t understand it. Now you’re
mad. Why?? Well, your friend’s
car (which is the same make,
model, paint job and
accessories) isn’t having any
problems. This problem should
not exist. It’s absurd…it’s
crazy. It’s a RECALL. It just so
happens that your car has a
slight defect. Well, what does
that mean?? That means that your
car is NOT exactly like your
friends.
With that being said, take a
look at your situation and focus
on just YOUR situation. Don’t
let yourself get ‘caught up’ in
the situation where you think
you should get as much money as
someone else, or you should get
a certain contract like someone
else, or you should get some
product or services like someone
else.
Now, don’t get me wrong. In some
negotiations, if you have
information about someone who is
similarly situated and you are
using their facts to better
position yourself, I am NOT
opposed to using that tactic.
It’s actually a tactic that is
used all the time. However, you
need to understand that there is
a difference between posturing /
positioning and dwelling /
fantasizing.
So with that being said, I want
you understand this point,
clearly. When going through any
legal situation (whether it is a
contract dispute, a claim, or a
law suit), don’t spend time
overly stressing on what you
think you should get or should
not get based on someone’s
situation you THINK is exactly
the same as yours. Focus on your
situation first, and let the
rest, work it self out.
By Anthony Reeves, Esq. (Owner
of the Reeves Law Firm,
www.reevesfirm.com, and
A.nthony R.eeves E.xperience,
www.anthonyreeves.com)
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